Why I usually leave group conversations in messengers

messengersUsing WhatsApp, Telegram or Facebook Messenger? Thinking of including me in your group conversation?

Well, don’t.

I am a very busy person, and as such, I need to be able to focus on my work or on my recreation (no joking, I need to focus on recreation). Including me – without having asked for my explicit permission to do so – in your group conversation would distract me from that, I would receive a lot of conversational spam, which I’m not interested in.

That’s why I usually leave all group conversations.

It is simply not of interest to me, reading the same complaints, jokes, hoorays or stories which I try to avoid in real-life in my messenger, where it is more personal to me. Sometimes, this even feels offensive to me. Additionally, it is usually the very same group of people leading the conversation there – and while I am very strong in communications, I don’t want to be forced to read the same – sorry – trash and the same mimimimi-stuff all over again, especially, since I don’t have the time to answer, because I tend to think and formulate my answers carefully. Plus it often shows me, how limited these persons are and how egocentric their view of the world actually is. Finally: Answering that crap usually means wasting my personal time and distracting me from the important things in my life – my family, my friends, and my work.

So, kindly do me a favor: Unless I explicitly expressed my permission and wish to be included in your group conversation, don’t include me. Let’s stay friends without that conversational noise.

Thank you.

My. Content. Again.

I had a blog for several years, but for some reason I actually don’t remember anymore, I dumped it at the end of 2015 – I guess, because it was way more convenient to simply spit out something on the social network of your choice. And because it was way cheaper.

But, it turned out: This was not a good idea.

Why? Because you get literally lost in the curated news feeds. You only get fast reactions instead of conversations. There is no sustainability in publishing everything at Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn or Instagram. You won’t be found, you won’t be recognized. It simply is not worth it, at least not when you are not publishing the content on your own platform and only use these networks as multiplier.

So, I restarted my blog last year (at least sort of) and hosted it over at SquareSpace.com – which again turned out to be one of my lesser favorable ideas, since that service is reliable, but basically offers no integration and no real comfort to the average blogger. Therefore I did not really blog, I built blog pages – it took hours to finish something.

So, back to basics.

I’m back with a WordPress blog, actually hosted at WordPress.com. They charge me 300,– bucks a year, so I better try something to make use of this amount of money I just spent.

Therefore, I decided to take back my data and my content into my own hands. I will (again) post everything here first, and then (perhaps) in some social network. This applies to everything, including texts, as well as links, images and opinions.

Why? Because now it is my content again. Not the content of some network which uses it to make some money. Not the content of some aggregators and some marketing agencies. I can start conversations, share it to my liking and do not need to care about their rules and regulations.

My. Content. Again. 

Finally.

And it feels good!

Try something

My girlfriend asked me this afternoon, how to log out of the official Twitter App for Android. Turned out, it was very well hidden, since they – of course – don’t want you to ever log out of it.

This made me think of the way I personally use these apps (Twitter, LinkedIn, XING, Facebook) and why I always should remain logged in there and if it wouldn’t make sense to actually uninstall them and use a browser instead.

Well, I did so. I installed Firefox Focus (Firefox Klar as it is called here in the DACH-Region), navigated to these sites, added Homescreen Shortcuts and uninstalled or at least cleared the memory of the social media apps.

Frankly, it is a little bit more work to log in into the mobile websites all the time (which one could circumvent using something like LastPass) and the Firefox Focus Icons look very dull, but it feels right since every time I close the website, all cookies get erased. This prevents my privacy outside these networks and helps keeping my mobile devices fast.

Feels good so far, let’s see, how long I will remain committed to this experiment.